How to Communicate with Your Children

Who said it was easy to communicate? We could meet every day with the whole family, but we are not necessarily talking heart to heart with each other. Alternatively, fathers, mothers and children are close together or sitting in the same room, but each one is busy with a cell phone or watch a show on television.
In fact, parents are strongly encouraged to create communication, invite her to talk though only briefly. You see, through that little conversation, a lot of significant impact on the child's progress. Do not forget, the children learn from what they see in the home, from their parents. So, do not be lazy invite children to talk and tell stories. Talk about what they are learning in school and what they want to achieve. Indeed, we should always follow the development of children, both at home and school, is not it? Do not wait until your child's teacher contact. Be proactive. The success rate of children who have a parent who always follow the progress of their children in school is higher than children whose parents are rarely invited to speak.

Here are 10 simple ways that you can apply to start a conversation, make kids want to hear your words, and his experience.

1. Be a good listener
If the child wants to tell something, stop doing what you are doing at that time. If not, the child will feel cared for and think you do not have time for him. Also avoid interrupting. Let the child express feelings of anger, fear, happiness, or simply commented. At other times, the child's turn to listen to your words and not hurt you to vent about a topic that is appropriate for his age. Being a good listener as well as the attention you give a gift that is best for the children.
Here are examples of words that show your child how much you seriously listen to what is being said or she told: - O,ya, then? - Mama understood. - Wow! - Wow, really great! - Yes, Mama understands your feelings. - Forward your off steam, remove what you buried.

2. Two-way
When talking to children, give them choices, whenever possible. Let them feel talking to you, instead of being set. Create a two-way communication, not one-way communication, and not dictate attitudes.

3. Calm and honest
Avoid words that are not appropriate as an expression of anger and frustration. Children will learn to be a good listener and believe in what you say when you talk to the right, honest, and calm. Trust and respect comes from honesty and sincerity. If you do not mean it, do not say things that do not need you to say.

4. Give support
If the child entrusted to your story, they should feel relieved, inspired, feel your support, and excited. Do not make them feel guilty or disappointed. When a child comes to you and tells his problems, listen attentively and give support through words such as: - Mama / Papa sure you can handle it. - Each issue is certainly no solution, including the problems you face. - Think again carefully. You have to really understand it. - Mama / Papa is here to help you. - Mama / Papa was first time Mama ever experienced your age.

5. Put yourself
  Try to let go of the attribute as a parent when a child listening to vent and try to put yourself in the position of the child. Think and feel how difficult it is for children to express their concerns and think carefully before giving a reaction or comments.

6. Avoid lots of questions
Try not to dominate the conversation. When the vent and feel your child is too fussy or upset with the story, the possibility of another time when he had a problem, tell it to your child cured. As a parent, of course there are times where to discuss problems faced by children. Make sure you discuss the problem and not deviate from it.

7. Follow up
After he delivered the problem, follow up. This will make sure the child, you are concerned about the difficulty, would help, as well as give you a chance to get into his world.

8. Spend time
Busy parents is not always a bad parent. Do all things spontaneously, like going to the cinema or exercise together. Fixed take time, whatever little, for beloved baby.

9. Apologize when wrong
If you say or do something that probably should not have said or done, do not hesitate or shy to apologize to the child. Admit that you too are only human who can make mistakes.

10. Love baby
Tell the child (without ever getting bored), and show how much you love him through the loving treatment. Give him attention, just like when he was a baby who has not been able to do anything. Show him, for you there is nothing more important than being with him.

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Is Our Children Need to Know God?

Yes, our children need to know God personally in their lives. This means that we ourselves must know God because God can become more real to them if God already real to us. There are those who send their children to Christian schools because they want their children to obtain a Christian education even though they themselves are not Christians. Children need more than just Christian values​​. "Christianize" them is not enough. Whatever it would not really enough, except the Christian experience experienced personally and seriously. They need fellowship with God, the One who created them. God is much more to know and love them rather than us. It was indeed difficult to understand if we really love them. But if there is One who loves them more, then of course they should know him, right? We live in a world that is so terrifying. There are so many bad influences out there that can destroy our children, both physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually.

There are also many amazing things in this world and everything comes from God, the Creator of all that is good. The most reliable way to protect our children so as not to be subjected bad influence and that they may obtain the good things is to guide them to the One who will provide a strong foundation in their lives. Proverbs 3:6 advises us to acknowledge Him in all our ways and He will direct our paths. It is certain every parent wants their children to get through this dangerous world with the guidance of a Person who will lead them to all that is true, good, and useful. If we want it, we ourselves must acknowledge God in front of them since they were children. So most likely they will acknowledge the Lord as they grow up. Children are the most sweet and innocent can be entered into the wrong path as they go through periods of instability in their teenage years. It would be very scary to take the risk of raising a child in this period they have no knowledge of God and His plans for their lives. Many parents who let their children decide for themselves when they grow up if they would go to church or not. It is simply an effort to avoid liability and it will not work. Perhaps there are few children who grow up without the influence of Christianity which then seek God alone. However, you might as well gamble if you do it, the article there are many possibilities that might occur. They need a parent's role to lead the way. In fact, send your kids to Sunday school or church activities other is insufficient. They need to know that Christianity is something that you believe in and seriusi - that Christianity is something that is not only beneficial in childhood, but also throughout one's life. If not, they will only believe in God as much as they believe in Santa Claus, the Easter bunny and the tooth fairy. We find more wisdom in Proverbs, where we are told to "educate young people in the way he should go, and then in his old age he will not turn from it" (Proverbs 22:6). Obviously, there is no insurance policy in educating children. We can not guarantee that our children are not lost though we have faithfully guided them on the right path. However, their chance to walk on the right path would increase sharply if we want to consistently show them the way to God and encourage them to make God the Lord in their lives. The Lord will give them a hint of life, meaning, and fulfillment in life. Without God, life would be a maze of streets that is impossible to pass, that is too confusing so that children walking to and fro without purpose, and easily fall prey to people who intend evil, to those who are already trapped in the circle of enemies God. Without God as well, whatever the world has to offer as if empty and meaningless. Even children who seem to have a lot of potential and a bright future can feel a huge void in the abyss of their souls. There is a famous quote, which I believe came out of the mouth of Pascal, who said that there was a vacancy created by God in the human soul that can only be filled by God Himself. If God is not included in the children's lives, they may try to fill their lives with a lot of things - good and evil - in an effort to achieve the satisfaction of their needs. But in the end, nothing is more meaningful than the God who is the center of everything. Could it be that the reason why many young people at this age are very unhappy, even very depressed? Could it have something to do with the attitude of those who tend to spoil yourself? Could it be the reason why suicide become common among teens and young adults? If we are not able to give the most basic meaning they need in their lives, then we let them fall fall, no matter how many worldly pleasures, knowledge, opportunity, and luck that maybe we give them. It is the responsibility of our own to make our children to know God. He is a steadfast Rock where all life must be built on it in order to survive the storms of life and become a light to inspire others who live life in the future.


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Balinese Hindu Ceremony for Baby ( Part 1 )

Manusa Yadnya is a sacred offering that aims to maintain and clean the physical and spiritual life began from the moment of realization of the human body in the womb until the end of human life. Human physical and spiritual cleansing is very necessary in doing during their lives, because it can make cleanliness of sanctity. Cleanliness (purity) as this can avoid the physical and spiritual man himself from backslide. With the cleanliness, the people will be able to think, say and do the right so that it can improve itself to a more perfect living conditions. Cleaning elements in the ceremony can be tirtha panglukatan or other.
Tirtha-tirtha this is holy water that has been blessed by the sulinggih priests (pastors), so the holy water has "twah" (testament), which can lead to the existence of spiritual cleanliness (purity) was. Inside Manusa Yadnya, basically there are four series of rituals with each other can not be separated. They are ritual of Mabhyakala (Mabhyakaonan),  Melukat (Mejaya-jaya), Natab (Ngayab), and  Muspa (pray itself). Each ritual has a purpose and specific goals.


And here are the kinds of Manusa Yadnya,in this case especially for baby.

a. Ceremony of Pagedong-Gedongan (Garbha Wedana or Babies Ceremony in Gynecology)

This ceremony is pleading to Hyang Widhi ,The Lord,to existing baby in the womb was blessed in a physical and spiritual cleanliness. Similarly, there are mothers with their babies are safe and in the future after birth and adulthood can be useful in society and can meet the expectations of parents.
Of course its not enough. The mom should keep her body health during pregnancy and keep good habbit in orther to educate the baby since he or she is still in her. 

b. Birth Ceremony.
This ceremony is a spontaneous outburst of joy and a sense of gratitude and happiness of the birth of the baby into the world and pray that the baby remains safe and in good health. At the time the baby is born, which should also be noticed is the treatment of placenta. Placenta was washed with clean water, then it put in a halved coconut. The palm is wrapped with white cloth and then in buried (at planting) at the entrance of the house (the guy on the right and the woman on the left). After the planting at the top should be the contents of the thorny pandan leaves in order to reject interference from the powers that be negative.

That are first two of Manusa Yadnya that relevant for Balinese Hindu baby.  There are always aspecial ceremony when a human reach the next grade of life,and i'll share you next.... See ya...

Indian/Hindustan Baby Names

Looking for a baby name to be one of fun activities while awaiting the birth of the baby. For those of you who are looking for a name, might be able to take inspiration from the Hindustan baby name  below.
Here are the list of 50 Hindustan Baby names and their mean.....

1 Aachman: intake of a sip of water before a yagya or puja
2 Aadesh : command; message
3 Aadi : first; most important
4 Aafreen : encouragement
5 Aakar : shape
6 Aakash : the sky
7 Aalap : musical
8 Aandaleeb : The Bulbul bird
9 Aashish : blessings
10 Abeer color
11 Abhay fearless
12 Abhayananda delighting in fearless
13 Abhayaprada bestower of safety, another name for Vishnu
14 Abheek fearless
15 Abhi fearless
16 Abhibhava overpowering, powerful, victorious
17 Abhicandra with a moon like face, one of the seven Manus of the Svetambara jain sect
18 Abhidi radiant
19 Abhihita expression, word, name
20 Abhijat noble, wise
21 Abhijaya conquest, complete victory
22 Abhijit one who is victorious (Abhijeet)
23 Abhijvala blazing forth
24 Abhilash desire
25 Abhimand gladdening
26 Abhimani full of pride, another name for Agni as the eldest son of Brahma
27 Abhimanyu Arjuna's son, heroic, with self-respect
28 Abhimanyusuta son or Abhimanyu
29 Abhimoda joy, delight
30 Abhinabhas renowned, famous
31 Abhinanda to rejoice, to celebrate, to praise, to bless, delight
32 Abhinandana felicitous, delighting, welcoming
33 Abhinatha lord of desires, another name for kama
34 Abhinav quite new
35 Abhinava new, young, fresh, modern, a sakta notable for his great leaning and spiritual attainment
36 Abhirup pleasing
37 Abhishek shower of milk/water over an idol
38 Abhisoka passionate, loving
39 Abhisumat radiant, another name of sun
40 Abhisyanta splendid, a son of Kuru and Vahini
41 Abhivira surrounded by heroes, a commander
42 Abhra cloud
43 Abhrakasin with clouds for shelter, an ascetic
44 Abhyagni towards the fire, a son of Aitasa
45 Abhyudaya sunrise, elevation, increase, prosperity
46 Abhyudita elevated, risen, prosperous
47 Abjayoni born of the lotus, another name for Brahma
48 Abjit conquering water
49 Acalapati lord of the immovable, lord of mountain
50 Acalendra lord of the immovable, the Himalayas

5 Inspiration of World Celebrity Baby Names

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Looking for a baby name to be one of fun activities while awaiting the birth of the baby. For those of you who are looking for a name, might be able to take inspiration from the five world celebrity baby name  below.

Max 

Christina Aguilera and Max

Max is the name of the child of singer Christina Aguilera and her ex-husband Jordan Bratman. Max was born January 12, 2008. Max is impressed simple name is taken from the Latin, which means the greatest.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Violet 

Jennifer Garner and Violet

Actress Jennifer Garner and her husband, actor Ben Affleck decided to name their first child Violet. Violet Anne Affleck was born in December 2005. Violet comes from Latin and is the name of the flower, which means purple.

 

 

 

 

 

Olive 

Isla Fisher and Olive

Movie stars' Confessions of a Shopaholic ", Isla Fisher and her husband actor Sacha Baron Cohen named their first daughter, Olive. Olive was born October 19, 2007. Just as Violet, Olive also taken from Latin and is the name of the olive tree. The tree is a symbol of peace, so the name Olive is often defined as 'something good'. 

 

 

 

 

 

Vivienne 

Angelina Jolie and Vivienne

The couple Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt decided to name one of their twins Vivienne. Baby girl was born July 12, 2008. Vivienne comes from Latin and means 'life'.

 

 

 

 

Alexander 

Naomi Watts and Alex

Actress Naomi Watts and her partner Liev Schreiber named their first son Alexander "Sasha" Pete. Alexander was born July 25, 2007. Alexander's name comes from Greek and means 'human shield'.











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Jessica Alba is a Mom

The Alba-Warrens 

Jessica Alba transformed from movie star to mom, giving birth to daughters Honor Marie and Haven Garner with husband Cash Warren. See how this fab four has grown!

Two-month-old Haven settles into the best seat in the house – atop Alba's lap – during an October 11  playdate in Beverly Hills

Hats off to Jessica Alba, who keeps 4-month-old daughter Haven under wraps while relaxing at the beach in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, on Dec. 30.

She's tickled pink! Haven breaks into giggles during a December shopping spree with mom at a West Elm Hollywood outpost.

With mom and dad looking on, Honor gives it her best shot while playing ball at a New York City park on Oct. 23.

Hope she's on the nice list! A festively dressed Honor, 3, pays a visit to Santa Claus with mom at her side on Dec. 8 in Beverly Hills

Jessica Simpson Pregnant: I Think I'm Having a Girl!

Jessica Simpson: I Think I'm Having a Girl!
Jessica Simpson and fiancé Eric Johnson are pretty sure they know what to expect when they're expecting – if only they could agree.

"I think it's a girl," Simpson, 31, told PEOPLE at the New York launch of a clothing line that she and sister Ashlee Simpson created. "But I don't know yet."

"I think it's a boy," says Johnson, who was on hand at Dylan's Candy Bar in New York along with future mother-in-law Tina Simpson. "We're pretty much at a standstill there."

But the couple plans to find out the sex of their baby.

"I don't think we can wait," says the former NFL player, 32. "Jessica is too honest about everything, she needs to know. I don't think she can hold that secret to herself."

Even if she's wrong about the baby's gender, Simpson promises her child will be well dressed.

"If it's a boy," she quips, "I'll put him in tutus!"

40 Flights to Bali for Obama

Barack Obama Booking 40 Flights to Bali

The arrival of U.S. President Barack Obama certainly make busy airport Ngurah Rai, Bali. Because there will be 40 times better flight carrying logistics and the party from the White House.

The airport authority did not want anything missed by even the slightest mistake that could potentially interfere with the arrival of Obama and the other countries president.

Commander Pangakalan Ngurah Rai, (Airport Military Base) Lieutenant (Pilot) Jumarto, said the safeguarding of the arrival of Obama's entourage will be a serious concern ranks.

"We have information related to the arrival of President Obama there will be approximately 40 times the flight to Ngurah Rai Airport," said Jumarto when contacted Legal, Monday (11/07/2011).

A C130 Hercules aircraft the U.S. Air Force arrived early this morning followed by late afternoon the same plane transporting other logistics.

Only, when asked when the certainty of the arrival of Obama, until now the Ngurah Rai air base can not be certainty from the State Secretariat. Previously, Jumarto informed Obama is expected to land on 16 November.

With the dense plane carrying aviation logistics and the White House entourage, various preparations have been made since the last few weeks. Airport Military Base ranks with other forces of the military and police planned to hold a final preparatory pre-assignment on November 11 to 14.

Meanwhile, the other heads of state scheduled to begin arriving in Bali on 16 and 17 November. Besides Obama will attend 18 heads of state or other officials at the ASEAN Summit and East Asia Summit.

For the safety of the Ngurah Rai airport environment, other than a Company Paskhas reinforced the Air Force, also backed-up equipment and commandos from the other elements of the TNI.

In addition to maintaining the security of aircraft and logistics, security is also focused along the route from the airport to the location of the ASEAN Summit and the heads of state stay at Nusa Dua

Choosing Insurance for Children

Prepare our kids financial needs since early childhood.


Financial Planning for children needs to be done early, even the sooner the better, for example, before she gave birth. Mother and Father should have prepared children's health insurance and education in the future.


If the place you work does not include the child into the insurance, then you must provide a separate child's insurance. When choosing health insurance, consider the needs of little ones who generally still have to regularly consult with the doctor, giving immunizations, and preparation for hospitalization if needed. It is better to pay insurance premiums more expensive to load but it gets the complete responsibility for financial relief routine consultations, from the insurance with low premiums, but only offers hospitalization. However, it remains to adjust the amount of payments with your income.

 

For education insurance, choose one that offers a flexible educational insurance. This will help you if one day want to raise or lower the sum assured . Consider carefully the selection of currencies for payment. This can be done by considering whether the child will continue to attend school in the country or is likely to continue their education abroad.


To choose which accept payment by card payment system, not only simplify the system of payment of claims. Confused where to raise funds to pay for insurance? Here are some ways that you can consider.


First, set aside from paychecks, aka saving. The amount should be adjusted primary expenditure of households dengna first. If the income is uncertain, forced to set aside more money, because next month you will not necessarily get the same results or more. If your income is not sufficient, then there is no harm in looking for additional income. While this is not a day longer rely on income from one place to work. Find a hobby that can produce or work you can do outside office hours. Check the contents of the house. If there are items you do not use or even you never use, sell back. Once a year routinely monitor your family's finances back , because surely require readjustment.

Nutrition for Pregnant Moms

After talk about what food that have to avoid during pregnancy in previous post, lets talk about what nutrition they are need enough.
Meeting the nutrition of pregnant women are most important during pregnancy.
With well balanced nutrition, pregnant women can reduce helth risc both for fetus and the mother. Therefore,
attention to the intake of food and nutrition is also very important to do by pregnant women and family. Its actually not hard to take of nutrition for a healthy diet. But, the fetus in the womb pregnant women require extra caution in nutrition consumsion. For example,coffee or tea that had no direct effect for women, but
in pregnant women will reduce the intake of iron for fetus. Food nutrition that pregnant women need more are:
1.Calorie
Is required for fetal growth and development. Calorie can get from foods that are sources of carbohydrates and fats.
For example: rice, root crops, milk.
2.Protein
Second maternal nutrition are protein. As builder substances its required for fetal development. Protein
found on: meat, fish, eggs and beans or peanuts.
3.Iron
Itis also the nutritional needs of pregnant women who are not
tolerance. Iron also serves to reduce the occurrence of anemia
in creation of red blood cell hemoglobin (which carries oxygen
in bodies).Iron can found in meat, fish and liver.
4.Folic Acid
Pregnant women is needed for fetal development and keep on
brain and spine health. Also prevents the fetus was born prematur.Folic acid
many found in green vegetables, orange juice, beans also wheat.
5.Calciom.
It is Subsequent maternal nutrition.
Calcium contributes to fetus bone and tooth growth.
The best calcium sources are, cheese, yogurt, anchovy.
6.Vitamin C
It takes pregnant women because it contains many antioxidants that very useful to protects tissues and organs from damage. Its send chemicals to the brain. Pregnant women needed vitamin C as much as 85 mg per day.
7.Vitamin A
Also needed by pregnant women for nutritional completeness. Vitamins
on immune function, eye vision and development of the fetus. Vitamin
A can be found in yellow or green vegetables, egg yolks.
8.In addition, other maternal nutrition is needed among other vitamin B1, B2, pantothenic acid, niacin (Vit.B3 a water soluble).
Also vitamins B6 and B12
that take place in the formation of red blood cells, DNA and metabolism
amino acid.

What is a result of malnutrition of pregnant women?
Pregnant women who are malnourished can make miscarriage,preterm infants born , fetal death, infant central nervous fail system and developments that do not pay attention to your normal intake.
Beside the nutrition food on, pregnant women also have to take advice
for not doing the diet, drinking alkohol and caffeine, or herbal medicines (herbal medicine) without consulting a doctor.

As for sports, pregnant mothers continue to do so with doctor watch.The important in the human diet of pregnant women not on quantity, composition and balance but good quality enough.

Foods That Should AVOID During Pregnancy

Many questions among pregnant women especially in the pregnant at the first time are about what is allowed and may not eaten during pregnancy, and why? ...
For the Health Info this time will discuss about what foods are still pregnant women should avoid during pregnancy?. And Why should avoid these food types? ... ....

There are some foods that should be avoided during pregnancy because they can cause infections such as; salmonella, toxoplasmosis, listeria, E. coli, which can endanger pregnant women is also a baby in your womb.

Do not eat raw meat (sushi) or cooked in less mature, because it contains a parasite Toxoplasmosis can cause serious infection in your baby and also E. coli, which dangerous for pregnant women and fetuses.

Toxoplasmosis found in vegetables are not washed with good, therefore you clean the vegetables well, especially for salad or vegetables are eaten raw. Also avoid dirt cats or playing with cats during pregnancy because contain toxoplasmosis.

Do not eat chicken and eggs are cooked underdone or raw, avoid eating the liver of chicken / meat that may be sources of salmonella, which can cause severe diarrhea in the mother  pregnant. Also note the dishes, cooking equipment which affected meat This raw chicken to be washed.

Tuna steak, fish, sea bass, shark, or large-sized fish are known to contain high levels of mercury that can be cause nerve damage if eaten in large quantities. FDA recommendations tuna and large size is limited to 12 ounces per week

Soft cheese such as brie and camembert, cheese is cheese blueveined of milk goats and sheep, and do not drink milk that is not in pasteurization. All these products have a risk of carrying listeria.
Listeria type of bacteria that can penetrate the placenta and cause fetal infection, in adults there are no symptoms or such flu. Listeria can cause miscarriage, premature birth, and toxicity in the blood. But avoid these foods until gave birth to your baby.

Do not drink containing alcohol can cause abnormalities in fetal development there is also an emotional problem in baby.
Drinks that contain caffeine such as coffee, tea, preferably in avoid because coffee can affect low weight on baby, miscarriage and caffeine also reduces the absorption of iron. Remember your baby's development depends on what you eating during pregnancy.

Hopefully this information can help you in choosing food
healthy for you during pregnancy.

Pregnant Celeb 2011

Here are some of celebrities that got pregno this year. From Victoria Beckham, my fav singer Mariah Carey to Pink. Some wait for their first baby and some other for the next.
Think that i've missed the other? You're absolutely right. Who's got pregnant else? Leave me a comment....

Amanda Holden

Emma Bunton

Kate Hudgson

Mariah Carey

MirandaKerr

Natalie Portman

Penelope Cruz

Pink

Victoria Beckham

Holy

The picture taken from some source:

• http://accidentalmommies.com/pregnant-celebrities-due-in-2011/
• http://www.pregnanthollywood.com/
• http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/Pregnant-celebrities-from-Victoria-Beckham-to-Pink-we-look-at-who-is-expecting-in-2011.html

Shy Child, Facts, Causes and Tips

 pic from kaskus.us

This child is happy to be alone and do something in his room, and even this very whiny kids once. Feelings of shame is a feeling of anxiety experienced by a person against the views of others above himself. Some interpret it as something "weird", "be careful", "suspicious" and so forth.


In general, human birth has had little sense of shame, but if that feeling has turned into a kind of excessive fear, then it will become a phobia, the fear experienced pressure from others or fear of facing the community. Children who always shy away from the hustle and can not actively interact with the others.


Teachers are not easily tell if a shy student, because in general they do not like noise or problems. Shyness can be a serious problem because it will hinder a child's life, for example in the association, the growth of self-esteem, learning, and self adjustment. Generally characteristic of children is too sensitive shy, hesitant, isolated, depressed, and too difficult to get along. So they need to be given assistance.






CAUSE PROBLEMS




1. Elements of Heredity


This is an indirect factor and uncertain. From birth the child looks a bit sensitive and the possibility of it happening because of innate moment when the mother was pregnant with mental and physical pressure. But this is also yet to be a strong evidence of a sensitive child later whether it would be a shy.


2. Less Happy Childhood


There are some children who experience things that are less fun in his childhood. For example, parents often move, parental divorce, parental death, were forced to change schools or humiliated by a friend and so forth. All the experiences that lead to the disruption of their social relationship with the environment, like dodge or retreat, and did not dare mingle with strangers.


3. Lack of community


Shy nature would occur if the child lives with a background in which he was neglected by her parents, or raised in a family environment into exile, too restrained so that they can not have normal social relationships with the community.


4. Inferiority complex


Perhaps a sense of shame that arise because the child was short, being stiff or have a bad habit, then tried to cover it up with a way to be alone or to avoid interaction with others. Due to lack self-confidence and thought he was not comparable with others, he does not like to show themselves in the crowd.


5. Others Views


Many children become shy because of the views of others who had penetrated into her since childhood. Perhaps adults are often told that she was shy, even teachers and friends also thinks the same, so that finally he really be a shy.






Though these children will become children who excel in science and technology, or they can also be seniman2 and world-class masters, they are children who are sensitive and full of love, especially love of the parents.





Because of some friends who ask what's the solution, I add this post to the How do I encourage shy kids become confident:




1. Eye contact


When talking with a child, he always asked for your eyes. With force and apply it every time, children will gradually get used to making eye contact with the speaker.


If the child does not feel comfortable staring right in the eyes of the speaker, taught him to look at the top of the nose between the eyes of people in front of him. With repeated practice, children will not require this technique more and more confidence to stare straight in the eyes of his interlocutor.


2. Coaching conversations


Create a list containing the opening sentence of a conversation that is easy to use children to talk to various groups of people, such as a person who has been known, adults who have never met, who seldom met old friends, new kid at school, or child who often play with him in playground.


After that, take the child to practice using these sentences to feel familiar and comfortable to say it. One trick that can be used is to practice the conversation via telephone with a supportive audience at the other end. Thus, the child will not feel setertekan as if face to face talks.


3. Practicing socialization


Prepare the child to attend a social event that will soon be held to explain the background, expectations, and the audience who came to roughly the event. Then, help your child practice how to meet other people at the dinner table etiquette, basic skills of speaking, and how to say goodbye gracefully.


4. Opponent practice


Philip Zimbardo, renowned as an expert on overcoming shyness, shy boy recommends to pair with the younger children to practice within a short period. Create opportunities for children to play with other children younger than himself, such as brother, cousin, neighbor's child, or one of your acquaintances.


If a shy teenage boy, let him take care of small children to practice skills that are reluctant dipraktikkannya socialize with children his age.


5. One on one


Dr. Fred Frankel, a psychologist and former Social Ability Training Program at UCLA, suggested a game one on one as the best way for children to build self-confidence.


Encourage children to invite a friend to play together for a few hours to know each other and make friends to practice skills. Provide small meals as a snack and prevent interruptions as far as possible from their activities. Do not allow children turn on the television during the play session.
 
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Right Action for Autistic Kids

Extra love and patience is an approach that is often forgoten in the education of children with autism in a number of clinical therapy. Because of the efforts to form a positive attitude towards them without conscious tend nuanced violence, then the children become traumatized, afraid to follow therapy, or parents who do not receive. In fact, impressed the formation of behavior in children with autism, such as educating animal behavior!???


Its a reality.For example, ordered them to sit with his eyes bulging, screaming, shouting etc. If they do not follow,they sometimes get other violent acts.



Autism is a neurobiological developmental disorder are severe or widespread, and can occur in children in the first three years of life. People with autism have trouble communicating, social interaction, and limited activities and interests and repetitive. Symptoms for example, children can not speak or too late to talk, speak with a language not understood, do not want eye contact, do not want to play with peers



According to Tarin MPsi Rosdiana MHPEd,a doctor in Jakarta,Id, there are several things that you ,the parents who know their children have symptoms of autism can do.
The action you need to do among athers are:


Consultation


If we experience something different in children, then immediately consult a doctor or psychologist. The sooner treated, the better. Moreover, if the child is under 3 years.




Diet


For children affected by autism, parents can help by way of diet. Because with the right diet, it is possible to recover a larger child. This diet also has to do with obedience and discipline from parents.




Therapy


Many ways to heal children in autism. Therapy can be a cure autism. Never too late to give proper treatment in children.




Add more information


Find information about autism as much as possible, either through books, internet or other literature.



Group or Community


Create a community for parents who have children in the state of autism. From simply sharing stories, the parents whose children with autism can add to knowledge, experience and information.




Do not Give Up


If your child is affected with autism, work in curing the child. Do not ever give up and always think positive for the healing of your child (Ingrid N)

The History of Baby Diaper

Nowdays, diaper is one of most important baby need. And you must choose ones that best for your baby. Yes,diaper now may look fashionable and stylish, but did you ever think how is modern diaper at the beginning? I'll try to post the history that i have been found on the net.

The image above is a painting by Adriaen Brouwer(1606–1638) and titled as Unangenehme Vaterpflichten (Deutch). It is an Unpleasant duties, depicting the changing of a diaper. According to the Wikipedia,diaper is originally referred to the type of cloth rather than its use; "diaper" was the term for a pattern of small repeated geometric shapes, and later came to describe a white cotton or linen fabric with this pattern.

The first cloth diapers consisted of a special type of soft tissue sheet, cut into geometric shapes. This type of pattern was called diapering and eventually gave its name to the cloth used to make diapers and then to the diaper itself, traced back to 1590s England. This usage stuck in the United States and Canada following the British colonization of North America, but in Britain the word "nappy" took its place. Most sources believe nappy is a diminutive form of the word napkin.

Wrapping children not yet toilet trained, in some absorbent barrier, is as old as human history. In some countries with warmer climates, babies were kept naked and mothers tried to anticipate their bowel movements so as to avoid mess near their living areas.

In the 19th century, the modern diaper/ nappy began to take shape and mothers in many parts of the world used cotton material, held in place with a fastening - eventually the safety pin. Cloth diapers in the United States were first mass produced in 1887 by Maria Allen.Wowwww.... it was so long ago. In the UK terry nappies were used made out of terry towelling, with often an inner lining made out of soft muslin. Here is an extract from 'The Modern Home Doctor' written by doctors in the UK in 1935.
It is interesting to see here the usage of the words diaper and napkin.

Once available rubber pants would sometimes be used over the cloth diaper/ nappy to prevent leakage. Doctors were antagonistic to this because they believed that the rubber would act as a poultice and damage the baby's skin.

The constant problem to be overcome was nappy /diaper rash and infection. The concern was that lack of air circulation would make this worse. It was later found that poor hygiene - inefficiently washed and bleached nappies and infrequent changes of nappy, allowing the baby to lie for some time with faecal matter in contact with the skin, were the two main causes of serious problems.

In the 20th century, the disposable diaper/ nappy gradually evolved through the inventions of several different people. In the 1930's Robinsons of Chesterfield had 'Destroyable Babies Napkins' listed in their catalogue for the wholesale market. In 1944, Hugo Drangel of the Swedish paper company Pauliström suggested an idea of placing sheets of paper tissue (cellulose wadding) inside the cloth diaper/ nappy and rubber pants. The problem with this idea was that cellulose wadding was rough against the skin and when wet, crumbled into balls.

In 1947, a housewife in the UK - Valerie Hunter Gordon, started developing and making Paddi, a 2-part system of a disposable pad (cellulose wadding covered with cotton wool) and an outer plastic, adjustable garment with press-studs/ snaps. Initially she used old parachutes for the garment). She applied for the patent in April 1948, it was granted for the UK in October 1949 and in November 1949 she signed a contract with Robinsons of Chesterfield who then went into full production. In 1950 Boots the Chemist agreed to sell Paddi in all their UK branches. In 1951 the Paddi patent was granted for the USA and The whole of the World. Shortly after that, Playtex and several other large international companies tried unsuccessfully to buy out Paddi from Robinsons, as they realised the enormous potential of the product. Paddi was extremely successful for many years until the advent of 'all in one' diapers.

In America, on the other side of the Atlantic, another housewife - Marion Donovan from Westport, Connecticut, developed a waterproof diaper cover known as the "Boater" using a sheet of plastic from a shower curtain into which was placed a cloth diaper. (Patented in 1951) She later went on to develop a truly disposable 2-part system - like Paddi (with a garment and a disposable pad), but was unable to persuade any manufacturer to take on the product.

What is fascinating, was the inability of the big manufacturers to see initially, the huge commercial possibilies of disposable nappies. In the UK in 1948, Valerie Hunter Gordon made over 400 Paddis herself using her sewing machine at the kitchen table. Her husband had unsuccessfully approached several companies for help. It was a chance meeting with Sir Robert Robinson at a business dinner that got things going. In America, Marion Donovan could not find a manufacturer. In Sweden, Hugo Drangel's daughter Lil Karhola Wettergren, in 1956 elaborated her father's original idea, by adding a garment (again making a 2-part system like Paddi). However she met the same problem, with the purchasing managers, who were male, declaring they would never allow their wives to "put paper on their children." see Pauliström Mill History

However, since World War Two, there had been a quiet revolution in the female population of much of the world, which perhaps business men were unaware of. Mothers now wanted freedom to work and to travel and they could not do that whilst tied to their home sink, washing diapers all day.They wanted disposable nappies/ diapers.

During the 1950s, companies such as Johnson and Johnston, Kendall, Parke-Davis, Playtex, and Molnlycke did enter the disposable diaper market. In 1956, Procter & Gamble began researching disposable diapers. Victor Mills, along with his project group including William Dehaas (both men who worked for the company) invented what would be trademarked "Pampers". Presented to Fred Wells as 'project p-57' (this was the plane Wells had taught American pilots to fly during WWII), Mills stated, "This one will fly." Although Pampers were conceptualized in 1959, the diapers themselves were not launched into the market until 1961.

Over the next few decades, the disposable diaper industry boomed and the competition between Procter & Gamble's Pampers and Kimberly Clark's Huggies resulted in lower prices and drastic changes to diaper design. Several improvements were made, such as the use of double gussets to improve diaper fit and containment. As stated in Procter & Gamble's initial 1973 patent for the use of double gussets in a diaper, "The double gusset folded areas tend to readily conform to the thigh portions of the leg of the infant. This allows quick and easy fitting and provides a snug and comfortable diaper fit that will neither bind nor wad on the infant…as a result of this snugger fit obtained because of this fold configuration, the diaper is less likely to leak or, in other words, its containment characteristics are greatly enhanced. Further developments in diaper design were made, such as the introduction of refastenable tapes, the "hourglass shape" so as to reduce bulk at the crotch area, and the 1984 introduction of super-absorbent material from polymers known as sodium polyacrylate that were originally developed in 1966.