Shy Child, Facts, Causes and Tips

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This child is happy to be alone and do something in his room, and even this very whiny kids once. Feelings of shame is a feeling of anxiety experienced by a person against the views of others above himself. Some interpret it as something "weird", "be careful", "suspicious" and so forth.


In general, human birth has had little sense of shame, but if that feeling has turned into a kind of excessive fear, then it will become a phobia, the fear experienced pressure from others or fear of facing the community. Children who always shy away from the hustle and can not actively interact with the others.


Teachers are not easily tell if a shy student, because in general they do not like noise or problems. Shyness can be a serious problem because it will hinder a child's life, for example in the association, the growth of self-esteem, learning, and self adjustment. Generally characteristic of children is too sensitive shy, hesitant, isolated, depressed, and too difficult to get along. So they need to be given assistance.






CAUSE PROBLEMS




1. Elements of Heredity


This is an indirect factor and uncertain. From birth the child looks a bit sensitive and the possibility of it happening because of innate moment when the mother was pregnant with mental and physical pressure. But this is also yet to be a strong evidence of a sensitive child later whether it would be a shy.


2. Less Happy Childhood


There are some children who experience things that are less fun in his childhood. For example, parents often move, parental divorce, parental death, were forced to change schools or humiliated by a friend and so forth. All the experiences that lead to the disruption of their social relationship with the environment, like dodge or retreat, and did not dare mingle with strangers.


3. Lack of community


Shy nature would occur if the child lives with a background in which he was neglected by her parents, or raised in a family environment into exile, too restrained so that they can not have normal social relationships with the community.


4. Inferiority complex


Perhaps a sense of shame that arise because the child was short, being stiff or have a bad habit, then tried to cover it up with a way to be alone or to avoid interaction with others. Due to lack self-confidence and thought he was not comparable with others, he does not like to show themselves in the crowd.


5. Others Views


Many children become shy because of the views of others who had penetrated into her since childhood. Perhaps adults are often told that she was shy, even teachers and friends also thinks the same, so that finally he really be a shy.






Though these children will become children who excel in science and technology, or they can also be seniman2 and world-class masters, they are children who are sensitive and full of love, especially love of the parents.





Because of some friends who ask what's the solution, I add this post to the How do I encourage shy kids become confident:




1. Eye contact


When talking with a child, he always asked for your eyes. With force and apply it every time, children will gradually get used to making eye contact with the speaker.


If the child does not feel comfortable staring right in the eyes of the speaker, taught him to look at the top of the nose between the eyes of people in front of him. With repeated practice, children will not require this technique more and more confidence to stare straight in the eyes of his interlocutor.


2. Coaching conversations


Create a list containing the opening sentence of a conversation that is easy to use children to talk to various groups of people, such as a person who has been known, adults who have never met, who seldom met old friends, new kid at school, or child who often play with him in playground.


After that, take the child to practice using these sentences to feel familiar and comfortable to say it. One trick that can be used is to practice the conversation via telephone with a supportive audience at the other end. Thus, the child will not feel setertekan as if face to face talks.


3. Practicing socialization


Prepare the child to attend a social event that will soon be held to explain the background, expectations, and the audience who came to roughly the event. Then, help your child practice how to meet other people at the dinner table etiquette, basic skills of speaking, and how to say goodbye gracefully.


4. Opponent practice


Philip Zimbardo, renowned as an expert on overcoming shyness, shy boy recommends to pair with the younger children to practice within a short period. Create opportunities for children to play with other children younger than himself, such as brother, cousin, neighbor's child, or one of your acquaintances.


If a shy teenage boy, let him take care of small children to practice skills that are reluctant dipraktikkannya socialize with children his age.


5. One on one


Dr. Fred Frankel, a psychologist and former Social Ability Training Program at UCLA, suggested a game one on one as the best way for children to build self-confidence.


Encourage children to invite a friend to play together for a few hours to know each other and make friends to practice skills. Provide small meals as a snack and prevent interruptions as far as possible from their activities. Do not allow children turn on the television during the play session.
 
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